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REDGREENBLUEYELLOWWHITE
ORANGEGRAYBLACKYELLOW
BLUEGREENREDORANGEWHITE
BLUEWHITEREDGREENPINK
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Friday, 29 August 2008
That's How Love Is Sometime (real short story)
There was a guy and a girl. They met on badminton court, and the girl made the guy remember her accidently. After the incident, he guy spent a lot of time to think whether he should ask her to be his friend, then he wrote a letter to her for ask her to become his friend. And because of the girl never received such as letter before so they became friends.
After sometime they became a couple but they had broken up after a few months just because the girl felt she didn't love that guy anymore. She thought that guy never wanna send her flowers, love letters, took her to restaurants or spoke of love.
But actually the girl was wrong. She never thought that she never gave him a chance to do those things. She told the guy she didn't like people sending her flowers, that's why the guy never sent her any flowers. Maybe he never sent her any love letter was his fault but he had told the girl how much he love her through the message and he never had the chance to speak of love because he can only met her at school and she never can go out with him alone because of some reason, that's also why he never had the chance to bring her to any restaurants.
The guy also hope he can do more things for her and he tried but failed. He brought an umbrella to school everyday because he was scared of the girl might forget to bring her umbrella when the sky was cloudy. Unfortunely, when he had the chance to do it for her, she said that the guy was so annoying because of doing something like that. And the girl told the guy she like to eat sweets, so the guy bought a lot of sweets for her but she told the guy the timing was wrong.
After they had broken up. The guy never blamed the girl no matter how hurt was him and he wished that they still can be friends but the girl told him don't wanna be friend with him anymore, just treat him as a stranger when she met him on the next time.
If there is a person tell boths of them actually they still love each other and how they tried to love each other maybe the ending will be so different.
If you are the one who get hurt in love,it's alright. Don't be sad anymore and don't give up before you meet "her/him", we need to believe that love will come to us one day.
It will be your if it's yours, otherwise no matter how hard you try the ending will be the same.
After sometime they became a couple but they had broken up after a few months just because the girl felt she didn't love that guy anymore. She thought that guy never wanna send her flowers, love letters, took her to restaurants or spoke of love.
But actually the girl was wrong. She never thought that she never gave him a chance to do those things. She told the guy she didn't like people sending her flowers, that's why the guy never sent her any flowers. Maybe he never sent her any love letter was his fault but he had told the girl how much he love her through the message and he never had the chance to speak of love because he can only met her at school and she never can go out with him alone because of some reason, that's also why he never had the chance to bring her to any restaurants.
The guy also hope he can do more things for her and he tried but failed. He brought an umbrella to school everyday because he was scared of the girl might forget to bring her umbrella when the sky was cloudy. Unfortunely, when he had the chance to do it for her, she said that the guy was so annoying because of doing something like that. And the girl told the guy she like to eat sweets, so the guy bought a lot of sweets for her but she told the guy the timing was wrong.
After they had broken up. The guy never blamed the girl no matter how hurt was him and he wished that they still can be friends but the girl told him don't wanna be friend with him anymore, just treat him as a stranger when she met him on the next time.
If there is a person tell boths of them actually they still love each other and how they tried to love each other maybe the ending will be so different.
If you are the one who get hurt in love,it's alright. Don't be sad anymore and don't give up before you meet "her/him", we need to believe that love will come to us one day.
It will be your if it's yours, otherwise no matter how hard you try the ending will be the same.
Thursday, 7 August 2008
What do you think about love?
If you can use your logic to answer this question then your answer will be better than the answer you use your feeling to answer this question.
Below is the article from someone use feeling to explain love (This article is from other website, click on someone for more information):
Love is Not a Feeling. What? You exclaim, of course, love is a feeling. I feel it in my chest, stomach and my body tingles sometimes. Yes, those are the physiological manifestations when one has the sensation of ‘falling in love.’ Falling in love and love are two different phenomena. Falling in love can be either a flash of emotions or a first step towards genuine love.
Falling in love is a strong instinctive attraction to a person. If it is mutual and both people work at their relationship; one day that euphoric experience called, ‘falling in love,’ can grow into genuine love.
The falling in love phenomena is the call of one’s longing to belong, to cathect, but the object is instinctually chosen according to our ideals, dreams and etc., although one may not realize it. We usually fall in love with the person’s appearance, with the way she/he walks, the way he/she talks. Sometimes we impute to our object of love some mystic illusion, ideal qualities and the more we get to know the person the less we fall for him or her. That’s when the feeling of love disappears even faster than it appeared.
The more two persons get to know each other, the more comfortable they get; the less sharp, bright and exciting the falling in love experience is. Some couples continue their relationships and get married; some fall apart. It’s reasonable to say that more clothes in the closet and one more toothbrush in the bathroom is the end of the falling in love phase, but it also can be the beginning of genuine love.
The euphoric feelings we call ‘love’ is the emotion that accompanies the experience of cathecting. Cathecting is the process by which an object becomes important to a person. Once cathected, the object, often referred to as a ‘love object’ is invested with our energy as if it were a part of oneself, and this relationship between oneself and the invested object is called a cathexis. One’s cathexis may be fleeting and momentary. Genuine love implies commitment and exercise of wisdom. When one is concerned for someone’s spiritual and emotional growth, one knows that a lack of commitment is likely to be harmful and that commitment to that person is probably necessary for one to manifest one’s concern effectively. The concern and commitment to another’s spiritual and emotional growth is the purest form of love. It is for this reason that commitment is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship—friends, significant others, husband/wife.
Genuine love transcends the matter of cathexis. When love exists it does so with or without cathexis and with or without a loving feeling—those bursts of butterflies in the stomach, body tingling, etc.
It is easier—indeed, it is exhilarating—to love with cathexis and the euphoric feeling of love. However, it is possible to love without cathexis and without loving feelings, and it is in the fulfillment of this possibility that genuine and transcendent love is distinguished from simple cathexis. Genuine love is volitional rather than euphorically emotional. The person who truly loves does so because of ‘a decision to love.’ This person has made a commitment to ‘be loving,’ whether or not the loving feelings are present.
It can be difficult and painful to search for evidence of love in one’s actions, but because true love is an act of will that transcends ephemeral feelings of love or cathexis, it can be said, “Love is as love does.” Love and non-love, as good and evil, are objective and not purely subjective phenomena.
Falling in love is a strong instinctive attraction to a person. If it is mutual and both people work at their relationship; one day that euphoric experience called, ‘falling in love,’ can grow into genuine love.
The falling in love phenomena is the call of one’s longing to belong, to cathect, but the object is instinctually chosen according to our ideals, dreams and etc., although one may not realize it. We usually fall in love with the person’s appearance, with the way she/he walks, the way he/she talks. Sometimes we impute to our object of love some mystic illusion, ideal qualities and the more we get to know the person the less we fall for him or her. That’s when the feeling of love disappears even faster than it appeared.
The more two persons get to know each other, the more comfortable they get; the less sharp, bright and exciting the falling in love experience is. Some couples continue their relationships and get married; some fall apart. It’s reasonable to say that more clothes in the closet and one more toothbrush in the bathroom is the end of the falling in love phase, but it also can be the beginning of genuine love.
The euphoric feelings we call ‘love’ is the emotion that accompanies the experience of cathecting. Cathecting is the process by which an object becomes important to a person. Once cathected, the object, often referred to as a ‘love object’ is invested with our energy as if it were a part of oneself, and this relationship between oneself and the invested object is called a cathexis. One’s cathexis may be fleeting and momentary. Genuine love implies commitment and exercise of wisdom. When one is concerned for someone’s spiritual and emotional growth, one knows that a lack of commitment is likely to be harmful and that commitment to that person is probably necessary for one to manifest one’s concern effectively. The concern and commitment to another’s spiritual and emotional growth is the purest form of love. It is for this reason that commitment is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship—friends, significant others, husband/wife.
Genuine love transcends the matter of cathexis. When love exists it does so with or without cathexis and with or without a loving feeling—those bursts of butterflies in the stomach, body tingling, etc.
It is easier—indeed, it is exhilarating—to love with cathexis and the euphoric feeling of love. However, it is possible to love without cathexis and without loving feelings, and it is in the fulfillment of this possibility that genuine and transcendent love is distinguished from simple cathexis. Genuine love is volitional rather than euphorically emotional. The person who truly loves does so because of ‘a decision to love.’ This person has made a commitment to ‘be loving,’ whether or not the loving feelings are present.
It can be difficult and painful to search for evidence of love in one’s actions, but because true love is an act of will that transcends ephemeral feelings of love or cathexis, it can be said, “Love is as love does.” Love and non-love, as good and evil, are objective and not purely subjective phenomena.
I don't say that is wrong but for the person who use logic, Love is simple, it just the change of feeling toward someone due to the brain. We need to control it but not be controlled by it.
Different person has different view and explanation for love but most of them affected by their family, friends and so on. They also don't like to use logic think about love. Love for them is a nice and wonderful thing but they forget there are more people get hurt in love then really get their happiness from love.
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